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In light of recent cases of sexual assault on and around the UF campus, The Alligator listened the stories, explored the resources and followed the trends affecting students.
Survivors share their stories, encourage others to speak up
More than 30% of UF undergraduate women experienced nonconsensual sexual contact
By Melanie Pena
Graphic by Melanie Pena
Julia Mitchem weaved her way through the Gainesville Place parking lot as the lamp post light flickered. As she headed toward her apartment, the light trailed her steps.
A man sat at a bench. He stared at Mitchem.
As the 21-year-old UF journalism senior approached the picnic table, the man became more visible. He was masturbating.
“I just felt panic,” Mitchem said. “I called my boyfriend at the time and just started running and got away from there.”
More than 30% of UF undergraduate women experienced nonconsensual sexual contact by force or inability to consent since entering UF, according to a 2019 sexual assault and misconduct survey. This was an increase of almost 10% from the 2015 survey.
UF also reported 78 cases of Violence Against Women Act crimes in 2019, including domestic violence, dating violence and stalking, according to a 2020 annual security report. Only 38 cases were reported the previous year.
These numbers are not invisible to female UF students. Like Mitchem, many have experienced a sex crime themselves, or know a survivor. The numbers become most apparent in the messages many student-run social media accounts receive.
UF Girlboss is one of these accounts. The Instagram account was created by 20-year-old UF music composition sophomore Meagan Valliere and her roommate.
“It initially started completely as a joke,” Valliere said. “I don't think we posted a single serious thing. Being a victim of harassment and assault, I thought that it would be important to use my platform to eventually start doing serious posts.”
Valliere remembers when she first experienced sexual harassment at the age of 12 when a drunk man chased her down the street. Since then, men have followed her, stalked her and made inappropriate comments. The pattern of male harassmen molded into coercion and other gray areas of sexual assault as she reached adulthood.
“I've been basically assaulted by people I've been in relationships with,” she said. “Then that's really hard to report too, because where is the line drawn? You consented to this act, but you didn't consent to that act.”
Account followers messaged Valliere about their struggles with assaults in this gray area. Many feel guilty and confused. They weren’t attacked or forcefully penetrated, but they were taken advantage of and coerced into actions they didn’t want to do.
“They were in a relationship, and they were in love with these people and they took advantage of them and violated their consent and often didn't even ask and just went for things,” she said. “Even if they would speak up, it would be like [their boyfriend] pressed and pried and tried to coerce their partner into doing things that they wouldn't have otherwise.”
And with more messages flooding their inbox, the account shifted its focus to sexuality, consent and survivor validity beyond its meme-like posts.
The page shared the stories of two women who said a UF student drugged them at Grog House Grill. The women reported the crime to police, but the Grog camera footage was faulty and no arrests were made.
However, most of the stories of assault and harassment sent to the account were never reported to police.
“Feeling like there's an incompetent police force will deter people from even wanting to go in and gut-wrenchingly have to explain to people what has happened to them,” Valliere said. “People are not going to want to take that risk involved in going after the person that hurt them if it's going to be fruitless.”
After Mitchem’s experience, she called the police. Management at Gainesville Place told her it couldn't do anything about what had happened.
An officer explained to Mitchem that perpetrators will often start with public masturbation to test the boundary before working their way up to worse crimes.
“Then when it started happening more, that's when the panic started setting in,” Mitchem said.
Mitchem’s roommate, 22-year-old UF accounting senior Teagan Levee, found herself in the same situation about two weeks after Mitchem filed her report.
Levee and her girlfriend were walking home. When they passed the picnic table, a man sat there, masturbating.
She immediately called the police. The officer asked if the man had touched them. When she explained he hadn’t, she said the officer lost interest.
After the incidents, Levee and Mitchem began to post about what they witnessed. Friends reached out and shared their stories.
One friend told them she was swimming in the Gainesville Place pool when she noticed a man in the corner masturbating.
“It was scary because he walked in there,” Levee said. “It was getting scary to us because he's escalating. Before, he would just be there and watch people, but this time, he made his presence known to them.”
Levee, Mitchem and even Mitchem’s mother called the Gainesville Place office for weeks. They begged to move. They no longer felt safe, especially after discovering posts from years ago describing similar cases of harassment.
“This is an ongoing issue, and they're doing nothing,” Mitchem said. “And it's only going to get worse.”
The crime distressed Levee. It triggered memories from her freshman year, when she was assaulted at Grog.
“It made me feel so unsafe and powerless, and hopeless for what I can do, and how I can feel safe in my own home,” she said.
Levee had experienced revictimization, an effect of surviving sexual assault. Exposure to sexual assault puts survivors at higher risk of experiencing assault or harassment again.
Caroline Pope, a 23-year-old sociology senior, didn’t know about this phenomenon until she was assaulted a second time.
“I used to freeze like the first couple of times that I was assaulted,” Pope said. “Now, I actively am putting up a fight.”
One day in November 2020, Pope was celebrating with some friends in their apartment after a UF football game. Pope ordered an Uber home. Two male mutual friends were supposed to walk her to the Uber and make sure she was safe.
They checked her phone. One told her the driver canceled the ride. Pope asked them to reorder it. She got into the Uber, but she didn’t make it home.
“They didn't order it to my apartment,” Pope said. “They ordered it to a completely different location.”
From there, the men took her to an apartment.
The next day, Pope’s family came up to Gainesville to be with her. Pope decided to not report the crime but messaged the man who had raped her.
“I did message him about it though to tell him, ‘This is not OK,’” she said. “He responded with ‘I take it you don’t like me?’”
Later in May, Pope visited friends in Gainesville for a couple of days. She had been seeing a man she met through Tinder. Everything had gone well, and she liked him.
She had planned on meeting up with him again until he began to harass her over text.
When she went out to The Rowdy Reptile with friends a few nights later, the man was also there. She asked her friends to keep an eye on her.
“It was at the point where even the bartender was kind of concerned because I didn't look into it, and [the assaulter] was very touchy-feely all over me,” she said. “He wouldn't let me get away from his table, and I just wanted to leave.”
He managed to isolate Pope to coerce her into going home with him. The bar’s lights turned on, and the crowd swarmed out. She didn’t see her friends, so she left with him.
“There were things that I never would have agreed to that he did,” Pope said.
The next day, Pope was administered a rape kit. She spoke with a detective but decided not to pursue charges.
“I just want to have his name on the books that he's done this because he's gonna do it again,” she said. “I know he is.”
Pope blamed herself for a long time. But through therapy, research and advocacy, she has found a way to heal as a survivor.
None of these cases have been legally resolved, but the survivors are taking control of their experiences to prevent future similar cases.
Contact Melanie Pena at mpena@alligator.org. Follow her on Twitter at @MelanieBombino.